How to find a safe space
Common questions for people who are new here. You don't need to read them all. Just the ones you're curious about.
What does this map mean by a “safe space”?
A space where you can spend time without anyone bothering you. So you can choose by how much contact with people you want, this map lists quiet places, places to eat without talking, places where being alone is normal, peer groups and consultation desks, and doorways to medical care. Going and not going are both the right answer.
Do I need a booking or a referral letter?
It depends on the place. Libraries, gardens, shops and the like are mostly fine to just drop into. Peer groups and family groups each have their own way to make first contact, so check the official site linked on each page. A first visit to a university hospital usually needs a referral letter (without one, an extra fee called sentei ryoyohi is charged).
What if I'm not sure I can go?
You don't have to push yourself to go. Just looking through the information on the page is a real step. If you want to settle your feelings before going out, there's also the Tanu Tree & self-care, where you build small habits with a tanuki. If you invite someone and they say no, that's normal. As many times as it takes.
Can a family member ask for advice on someone's behalf?
Many desks allow this. Hikikomori regional support centers and many specialist clinics and family groups are set up so you can start with a consultation for the family alone. Siblings can ask for advice too. It isn't only for parents.
What is the “Peer-run support” badge?
It marks safe spaces run by people who have been hikikomori, or made to support them. Spaces without the badge are ordinary places that just happen to be easy to spend time in. Both are checked to the same standard.
What does (est.) next to a price mean?
Where we could confirm the exact price on the official site, we show it as is. Where we couldn't, we show the usual price for that kind of place and mark it (est.). Before going to a place with an estimate, please check the latest price on its official site.
Why do some safe spaces have no address or pin?
For some peer spaces, we show only the area and leave out the exact location, to keep the people who use them safe. You can find how to join on each group's official site. Online spaces don't have an address at all.
How is the information checked?
The hours, prices and contact details we list are checked against each place's official site. Information can still change, so every page carries a line asking you to check the official site before you go. If a safe space is missing or something is wrong, please tell us through the form on the About page.